I'm just reporting back. With parts in hand, now largely disappointed, and feeling a bit foolish, I can confidently tell you that my Xploder with a build date of 3/21 does not have either of the wiring connectors in existence to add the lights.
I'm not going to be opening up the wiring harnesses to add them. Learn from my mistakes. As was discussed earlier in this thread, don't be lazy like I was and I knew I was being lazy. Check for existing connectors before ordering the parts.
Somewhere along the line, Ford figured out the extra wiring laying around unused costs them money.