So I see so many tunes and they all do not recommend towing. Is there one that offers it all auto octane and daily/tow if needed?
All tunes are not equal, and there are tunes that allow for towing. It comes down to load and time. A tune that would net the best absolute times in a 1/4 mile time
might encounter some problems with a higher load while towing a trailer up a long hill. The ST has very sophisticated anti-knock strategies that are likely to protect the engine. Even so, if you're a tuner providing a cutting-edge "dyno" tune do you really want to have adverse publicity and unhappy customers if that tune causes some damage in an environment in which it's even slightly more likely to happen?
In short, if you're towing, look for a tune that accommodates towing.