Can’t help you on high mileage but if you pull the wheel you can check how much pad is left. ST uses braking for awd/traction control too. Hopefully others will chime in but I got over 100k on a highway driver yet my wife can barely get 30k out of a set.
As to one axle or two, if they are close in wear I would do them all at once if needed.
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